I am a single mother living a digital nomad lifestyle

I am a single mother living a digital nomad lifestyle.

“I was running and deliberately lost my way. The world far off and nothing but my breath and the very next step and it’s like hypnosis. The feeling of conquering my own aliveness with no task but to keep going, making every way the right away and that’s a metaphor for everything.”
― Charlotte Eriksson, Another Vagabond Lost To Love: Berlin Stories on Leaving & Arriving

On May 4th of this year, I gave birth to my 7 lb 14 oz, beautiful, healthy little girl. I birthed her as a single mother. I found my purpose in leading wellness retreats internationally, writing about my journey along the way. I envisioned her coming with me on this amazing ride. I believe there is nothing more educational than seeing the world and experiencing diverse culture.

I’ve always loved the idea of travel. Ever since I was a little girl, watching the Disney favorite, “A Little Princess,” as the main character Sarah Crewe sat atop a beautiful stone sculpture of Buddha’s head that rested in a magical, sparkling Indian lake. Seeing her there sparked something within me. It gave me a sense of reverence for something that was to be and perhaps something that always was.

Fast forward to now, and I have lived in 3 different countries. The second of which was India. It was there that I first saw her. The mother touring the country with her one year old daughter, hugged tightly to her hip in New Dehli. I knew that if I were going to be a mother one day, I wanted to be her. The short glimpse of that woman with her daughter changed my life. I often wonder where they are now. The third country was Costa Rica. This is where I was to get another glimpse of a mother to admire. A surfing entrepreneurial artist, who had moved to the town of Santa Teresa 20 years back on a travel bender. She fell in love with the place and opened up shop there. Back then it was just a small coffee shack. Now it is a beautiful art studio, cafe, wifi digital nomad haven called Zwart Cafe, and guess what? She had an infant daughter, and she was rocking it. This woman and her daughter ALSO changed my life. I am so grateful for these two. They made me realize it was possible to live the life I desired as a mother. I knew I wanted a child by the time I was 30, and so when I was 29, Zya was conceived.

I believe in the power of intention. I believe that whatever we desire, we can acquire. I don’t believe in can’t. I believe that we can create the story in our minds that begin with, “Won’ts.” We are our biggest barriers to creating a lives that are dream worthy. Without getting too philosophical, I would like to take you into a journey of what has been a beautiful roller coaster ride into becoming a single mother living a digital nomad lifestyle.It has taken me into the unknown like never before, and yet, because of her, I feel stronger, smarter, and more capable than ever before. I am relentlessly shooting for my dreams now more than ever. She has not only changed my life for the better, but has expanded the horizons on what I thought was possible. Since becoming pregnant with her, I have attracted some of the most beautiful people into my life. Since having her, I have also cut out a lot of the nay-sayers. Becoming the mother has created this ferocity within, and there is no time for those who say it’s not possible. We must stick with those who support our highest vision for our lives. If we do not have these people, we must call them in.

My daughter and I are about to travel Peru, Costa Rica, and Nicaragua together within the next 6 months. Before she was even born, she safely traveled in my womb to Costa Rica twice, and the rocky mountains of Colorado once. I believe souls like hers and mine were destined to travel. I believe that it is in our blood culturally and world wide, to be nomadic. I am thankful for a good wifi connection and a my iMac. These wonderful advances in technology have aloud me to be a stay at travel nomadic mother.

My daughter has taught me more than I ever learned on my own about mastering multi-tasking. She has taught me how to divvy up my time and how to be really present with what I am doing. She has given me a renewed sense of drive. I am not only providing for myself now. There is a saying in Costa Rica that, “A baby comes with a loaf of bread,” to indicate that when you have a child, the Universe provides. I have found this to be insurmountably so. It requires action matched with courage. I take steps (And leaps) daily, hourly, moment to moment towards my dreams. I study subjects that I desire to flourish in that make it possible to live life from a web based system, permanently. I am tired of being relied upon in an office setting. I have lived that life time and time again only to feel caged and ultimately not, “Free to move about the cabin.”

We have to feel out our destiny for ourselves. Sure, some things are out of our control, but we have the capacity to turn our sail in the direction of where the winds of our deepest desire are blowing. I have witnessed miracles while living this philosophy. I have witnessed dozens of people turn their sails towards their dreams and manifest THEM in a very short time.

And so, despite the masses who told me it wasn’t possible, that I would be tired, and too busy to fulfill my journey as a digital nomad, I have not only continued to do so, but I have flourished more than I ever have in pursuing this vision. There is a lot of negativity out there. I don’t buy it. I consciously CHOOSE to feed myself visions of greatness. Visions and intentions of a body, mind, and spirit that continued to stay in alignment with the intelligence, warriorship, and grace of a single mother surrounded in like-minded and positive community, that travels and works from location so that she, so that I, could take my beautiful, joyful daughter along with me.

 

Alana Roach  is a International Yogi currently based out of Annapolis, MD. Formerly adorned by the city lights and the busy streets of America, she was then whisked away by the illustrious path of yoga and took to traveling the world to share it with others. A few years back she started to write about the transformation she undertook by  practicing conscious meditation. Her passions became her career and she now holds RYS Teacher Trainings & International Retreats, Health Coaches, and writes every opportunity she gets. In her spare time she loves cuddling with her daughter,  surfing, being in nature, and living amongst her ever growing and global loving and conscious community. She is on Facebook , Instagram, Twitter, and can be reached by email explorationsofself@gmail.com